As the holidays approach and stress gets mounted even further (your caterer is so booked with holiday events he/she is taking forever to return your calls, the dress shop is preparing for the new styles to be released in January 2015 so gowns are being discontinued and the one you purchased is now marked down by $500 (but you cannot get a refund), your florist is going away for the holidays and cannot meet to finalize with you until mid-January) you may find your patience wavering and temper flaring as well meaning friends and family say to you, ‘Do you believe how close we are to your wedding/year of your wedding?!’ How, in the midst of the seasonal craziness do you stay sane (or at least control your own crabbiness)? Well, a few suggestions to cultivate a thankful attitude.
Yes, your vendors are bound to be busy and/or unavailable at this time of year (remember, they are actually people too, with lives to lead and families of their own to see), but think about how fresh and relaxed they will be once they return from a break. Or, if your vendor is so booked with holiday events that they can’t get back to you quickly, take it as a sign that they are wonderful at what they do, and that you must have made a good choice. They are taking care of their clients right now, just as they will take care of you when your day comes. And if you find that your dress is on the discount list, well, as annoying as that can be, discontinued gowns most often cannot be ordered; you can only get them off the rack. So, if a shop did not carry your size, you either wouldn’t be able to purchase the gown you love or would spend a fortune on much more intricate alterations. So it may not have saved you much anyway!
Friends and family will be traveling and gathering, and inevitably your wedding will come up in conversation. While you may be talked out when it comes to wedding plans and just want to put it all on hold, these people probably do not see you every day and want to embrace the excitement that comes with being a soon to be wed. Focus on the fact that they are happy for you and are just trying to show you. Share some of your plans, thank them for asking, and then switch the conversation to what is going on with them.
Spend some alone time with your fiancé, and don’t talk about the wedding. Take a drive through some Christmas lights, rent a favorite movie and relax, or even better, volunteer your time somewhere together (soup kitchens and shelters need extra hands and supplies even more around this time of year). Think about how lucky you are to have all that you have, and to have found the person you want to spend forever with.
Remember the saying of ‘Count Your Blessings, Not Your Troubles.’ As cliché as it sounds, it is the truth. And soon enough, your engagement will be over and your wedding day will be here. Make your engagement memories good ones. Because then you will be thankful for them later as well.
Best wishes for a magical holiday season!