Priority #1 - Finding a dress that makes you feel beautiful and like a bride.
Priority #2 - Making sure this dress also allows your to breathe, move, and not end the evening with bruises…
I write this post because it is amazing how many brides forget Priority #2!!
A wedding gown is like nothing you have ever worn before, and probably will ever wear again. Being a bride means having the opportunity (if you choose!) to wear a gown with immense detail, beading, lace, long train, etc. And if you are like a lot of women, you have been dreaming about it for quite some time. So it is easy to see how so many brides get wrapped up in finding the gown that looks like the gown of their dreams, and forget to also pay attention to how it feels. But this is a HUGE thing to consider. You are going to be in this gown for a l-o-n-g time. And not only are you going to be in this gown for a long time, you are going to be ACTIVE in this gown for a long time. You are going to take photos, get in and out of vehicles, walk down aisles, stand, sit, stand again, dance, sit again, dance again, etc. This is all difficult to do in a gown that is heavy or constricting. And remember, you are going to be photographed while doing all of this…smiling while in a constricting, heavy gown is even more difficult. So, some things to remember…
Make note of how heavy the gown is when you try it on. Stand in it for awhile and see how it feels. Walk around and see how difficult it is to navigate. If the straps are digging in to your shoulders, imagine how that will feel after 9 hours (or in actuality, one hour). If you have to lean forward so as to drag the train behind you, it’s probably to heavy to wear for an entire ceremony. If you are hiking up a strapless dress several times in the span of a few minutes, again, imagine how annoying that is going to be all night long. Ask the seamstress in the store if something can be done to more evenly distribute the weight of the dress (an inner corset can help with this a lot!) and if she says no…I hate to say it, but keep trying gowns on. Also, ask how the train will be bustled. See how this feels as well, as it will redistribute weight of the gown.
Make note of how the dress feels. Again, you will be wearing this a long time and you are going to want to breathe, eat and drink comfortably. There is SUCH a temptation to squeeze into a too-tight dress that you love (and I will be writing another post about do’s and don’ts for your wedding…buying a gown a size too small will be on the don’t list!) but again, please resist this. Too tight means you will not be comfortable, nor able to eat or drink for the most part, and therefore at risk for passing out throughout the day. Purchase a dress that fits you properly – I promise you, you will look more beautiful in a properly fitting gown than one that is too tight. Also, pay attention to the boning in the gown and if it pokes you, ask about how to fix it. Put your arms down so you can feel the sides of your dress…does the beading pull or cut your arms? If the answer is yes, see what can be done to fix it. If nothing can fix these pokes or pulls…keep looking.
Keep these things in mind and you will end up with a beautiful gown that you will ENJOY your wedding in! You have planned for the day for so long…don’t miss a minute of it because your gown is distracting you! See the two photos below as examples of gowns that fit brides beautifully!
These gowns fit these two brides perfectly. The bride on the left fits snugly in the strapless without pulls across the chest or belly area, and without squeezing her out of the top. The bride on the right fits comfortably in her gown; the illusion neckline lays flat, the boning through the front holds the dress but does not cut into her, and again, no pulling across the chest or belly section of the gown. Perfect!
This gown has been tailored perfectly to this bride! She can lead forward comfortably and without the strapless cut hugging her so tight that her chest becomes constricted (the gown fits but she has room to move!) and on a side note, the blush tone is just gorgeous (don’t be afraid to add some color to your gown!).